Now, this is one of my favorite topics, just because I put in practice so often.
First of all, before I get into the subject I have to explain to you how the human brain works, so you can understand why it is so hard for most of us to do something new.
The brain works in patterns.
Meaning that it learns something through repetition and then uses that pattern to do it without requiring your attention, so you can focus on other important things.
That is so cool!
This is how we manage to walk, speak, and chew gum at the same time.
Looking from this perspective, you have to take your hat off for Mother Nature, for the way it constructed our bodies.
The problem is, that brain acts exactly like any other muscle in our body: if you don’t work it, it will atrophy.
It’s quite easy to learn stuff when we are kids because we are so eager to experiment the world, but as we grow older most of us tend to work in default mode, and that is the biggest mistake one can do.
Learnings new things means to get out of our comfort zone, to push our boundaries, to go into uncharted territory.
And that scares the hell out of people.
But what happened meanwhile?
It took us about a year and hundreds of falls and bumps in the head so you can learn how to walk (and that is so basic!)
It took us many years and a lot of mistakes just to learn how to speak properly.
It took us years and hundreds of hours of practice just to be average at some sport.
And the list could go on forever.
My point is that just a while ago we weren’t so scared to learn, see or experiment, new things even though it required a lot of courage, work, and persistence.
So why not go back to the basics, to that initial state of mind where nothing is too hard, too far, or too embarrassing to achieve.
Training your brain to work like that is exactly like going to the gym after many years of not exercising.
You have to start with easy “get out of the comfort zone” tasks like speaking your mind whenever you feel like it, or dance whenever you feel like dancing, or to go for a few days outside of the city with no plans at all.
The purpose is to train your brain so it feels comfortable taking uncomfortable actions.
Once you reach that basic level, you can go for higher stakes, like quitting the job and following your passions, traveling full-time, or be with your family all the time no matter what.
Yes, it all has to do with getting out of your comfort zone and taking actions, no matter how silly they seem at the moment.
And yes I speak from my own experience, I am 30 years old and have changed 10 jobs(real-estate agent, tour guide, bartender, waiter, salesman, marketer) lived in 3 countries, and… I just got started.
Ever since I was a kid I wanted to grow up, travel and do all sorts of things, so that when I become old I will have a story to tell.
I honestly think that we all have a greater purpose on this Earth, greater that our jobs, social status, or self-believe, a personal journey if you like.
That implies that we get off the beaten track and head for the bushes and this my friend requires courage, work, patience, and nevertheless expect to get some scratches and bruises on the way.
But at the end, you will find your treasure, and most important you will have your journey to share with the rest of the world.
So that being said I really hope you take action on a daily basis and get out of your comfort zone ( whatever that means to you), and embark on your true journey- The Journey Of The Soul.
My Visualization techniques
So I guess everyone has a secret tool that he or she uses when they want something to be done, something that is out of their reach or just hard to get.
And probably everyone has one that works for them perfectly, in every situation.
I, personally have more than one, however, there is one without I know that I could never succeed in my goals.
And that is…Visualization! Of my end result!
I know it is not something new, the book “The Secret” talks about this tool in detail, but I found out that you have to personalize it before using it, otherwise it may not work.
How do you personalize it?
Well, I read quite a few books about the Law of Attraction, but for a long time it didn’t work, or I would just get bits of my end-goal accomplished.
So I did what I do best: ignore all the steps and just do it the way I feel comfortable.
So after a lot of trial and error I finally cracked it:
I need to listen a certain type of music that moves me emotionally, and when I reach that state of peace and bliss I just need to think of my end result (whether that is something material or not).
The second thing that I need to do is to repeat this step for as long I feel necessary(maybe days or weeks)
And after I feel that I had sent enough messages to the Universe and I am certain that I will get what I want, I just wait ( exactly like a kid waits for his gift after sending Santa his letter)
It’s really important to be patient because I realized there is a time buffer from the moment you send your first message until it’s actually delivered.
How do you know if you have done it, right?
You should get whatever you asked for, but wrapped up way cooler than you could ever imagine, and with extra bonuses ( I realized that the Universe likes to throw in some extra features to your dream just so you can be super-happy).
This is my way of asking for things in life, and it has never let me down.
When it comes to Visualization, in my opinion, you just have to play with it and see whatever makes your heart jump.
You will know when you found your way.
So hope you enjoyed my insights and I wish you a magical day!
Throughout this post, I will insert links with the actual videos of the trip taken with the Nokia phone that I had back in 2010(Unfortunately, we speak in Romanian and the quality is kind of poor).
So I guess this whole traveling thing starts with me back in 2010, a week before I met Mary.
Going a few weeks back, here I was working in a hotel in the romantic island of Santorini, and absolutely hating it due to my manager, who’s nr. 1 goal was to make my life a living hell.
So I packed up everything and convinced my best friend that a bicycle trip across Europe would be much better than working 8-10 hours a day
So, the next day we were in Athens, in a bazaar, buying bikes, tents and camping gear.
By noon we were ready to go.
And so we did.
While starting to pedal, I realize that my balance was not the best( maybe because I haven’t been riding a bike in over 10 years?), and almost had an accident within 10 min in my journey.
So we took in slowly, avoided the busy streets and eventually managed to get in the rhythm.
We ask for directions, on how to get out of the city and in now time we were… on the freakin’ motorway!!!
For those of you who don’t know, it is illegal to ride a bike on the motorway for the simple reason that the cars travel with high speed.
Eventually, we decided to jump the side fence because it was getting too dangerous to travel like this.
We had to cross a field, carrying the bikes on our backs so we can reach the next village.
Only when we got there we realized how beautiful was the hole area.
This village was situated in a small golf, it had a nice central square and all the narrow streets lead to the beach.
We decided to camp there for the night.
One thing I really like about Greeks is that in the evenings, especially in the small communities, all the people would gather by the beach, telling stories, playing all sorts of games and even singing traditional songs.
So that first evening spent on that beach was really a bonus after a not so very good start.
Next day we woke up, had a sandwich and got back on the road.
We probably managed to pedal for a few hours when I realized that I had a flat tire…in the middle of nowhere.
We started to wonder if this whole trip is really a good idea and if we should continue anyway.
So for the rest of our second day, we walked beside our bike on what seemed to be an old highway which was not used that much anymore.
Either way, we couldn’t have known as the only thing we forgotten to buy was…a map.
After many hours of walking a truck passed by, and gave us a lift to the next town, where we had my bike fixed.
Luckily for us, there was a beach nearby, so we camped there as the sun was setting.
Our 3rd day into the journey began very smooth, we passed by beautiful fishing villages, orchards, and fields.
We stopped at noon at a beach to have a swim, lunch and a bit of siesta.
We then travel further into the Greek countryside and everything was going great.
At some point, a car stopped and this guy waved us to stop.
He was in his early 40’s, massive chest hair and a big golden chain around his neck.
In a really bad English he started chatting with us and from one thing to another he began asking us if we like boys and how much money do we want.
It was one of those flight or fight situations, so we did exactly what a true man would do
We ran as fast as we could!
We were now off the main road and riding in a nice country side area.
As the evening came we found a nice camping site and decided to stay there for the night.
The owner’s wife turned out to be Romanian, like us so, we enjoyed a true hospitality with dinner, coffees, and stories included.
She was the one who told us that going further into that part of the country was really dangerous and we should reconsider our route.
Even to that point, we didn’t have a map.
So the next day we headed in other directions and reached a very beautiful touristy place.
We realized that if we were going to continue, we would need some money, as we didn’t have a lot left.
We went and looked for jobs however without any luck at all.
So we decided to end our journey there, as we were prepared neither physically nor mentally for that kind of trip.
We came back to Athens, and stayed there for two nights in a lovely hostel, made a lot of backpackers friends and shared our short story with everyone.
Took the first coach to Romania and within one day we were in that place we called home.
When we were in Santorini, it seemed like a good idea to bike our way back to Romania, and it truly would have been doable if we would have planned it all better.
Now, as I look back I realize how easy is to take sudden decisions when you are in your early ‘20s ( which is a quality that fades away as you grow older), but in the same time that you have to learn the hard way what happens when decisions are not calculated in advance.
All in all, there is no bad experience, only life experience and this is what living in all about.
Ever since that short trip in Greece, I became a road bike fan.
It is now, one of my biggest hobbies and riding across Europe is still on the top of my bucket list.
Are we all born immigrants?
Today I want to touch a subject that is still tabu in our society.
Even though a very famous guy called Jesus encouraged us to love one another, and a really cool Asian dude named Buddha said that we have to be compassionate with all living things, we, as a collective consciousness, still lack these basic values.
On this note I would like to speak a bit about immigration, why it arouses, and how do I see it.
Firstly I have to say that I was born an immigrant. In my opinion, we all are, as we enjoy this amazing experience called “life on Earth” just for a glimpse compared to the age of the planet, or more, of the Solar System.
Is separation something that we learn or something real?
So I was born in Romania, a very nationalistic country in Eastern Europe, and from an early age I was thought (more like brainwashed) that our people are great, we had many heroes in the past, and we defeated all our neighbors whenever they try to mess with us.
As I grew up, some of the stories got a bit too much, saying that we were actually that first civilisation on Earth, that we possessed amazing technologies, that our country is the garden of Eden or that we are the promised land (there are a lot of people in Romania who actually believe this).
And for a while, I actually thought that some of them are true.
That is until I got out of the Romania and found out that every country has this kind of stories and they all believe that, in one way or another are BETTERS THAN THE REST.
And this has a lot to do with immigration, as the mass majority of people think that they are better that others just because they were born in a certain country, culture, or family.
In my vocabulary these people are called “closed minded” and they are no different than my fellow countrymen who think that Romania is the promise land of God.
It’s funny to me how every time we meet someone new we always see his or her differences like: he’s black or Asian, or he’s from the south of the country and has a funny accent, or he’s from that specific neighborhood.
But the thing is after you get to know that person really well, you don’t see all of those features that separated you before. Now you see reflections of your own personality like: he’s really funny, or he’s quite sensitive or careful.
So whenever we like a person we go beyond his physical features and see his true face- the face of his soul.
But what happens when that very person does something that we don’t like or we don’t agree with his actions: we start judging again, calling him names or labeling him as an outsider or something that we are not.
That in my vocabulary is called selfishness and that is not the real person speaking, but a very evil entity called the Ego.
So when speaking about immigration and immigrants we are actually speaking about people that come from other places, who are of course different because they belong to another culture or race, etc and who basically have a desire to live.
You may say that immigration is not natural, that everyone should stay in their own countries because that is where they belong.
Is migration something unnatural?
Well, in this case, let’s have a look at the animal world.
Should we ban the wild gooses and ducks that travel across continents, or the butterflies, or the animals in Africa who are in search of water in the dry season, or how about the whales who travel thousands of miles every year to breed?
Or let’s have a look at our recent history: Alexander the Great left Macedonia to travel all the way to India, the Romans went from the Italic Peninsula to Britania, the Portugues left for Brazil, the British to India and China, the Americans to the Middle East, Muslims in Europe and the Chinese … well, they are everywhere.
When looking from this perspective you would say, that we as a species are built in such a way that we just can’t stand still.
And that is a good thing because this is what life is all about, GETTING OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE, experiencing the world, meeting new people with different ideas, seeing other places, eating different food, learning other languages, etc.
This is how a person grows, by learning new stuff and by experiencing directly.
I think that everyone should travel for at least one year of their life because traveling gets the best out of you.
It puts you in situations where you need other people’s help, or depend on them and that leads to my favorite value: humbleness.
I have never met a person who traveled or was an immigrant and did not have a certain degree of humbleness.
You may ask why being humble so important. Because if you are humble you will feel compassion for people, and that is one step away from that LOVE that Jesus is talking about.
Is there something better in the future for us?
Luckily for us, the new generations, are born with a much higher level of common sense that their parents and grandparents and see the world as their playground with everyone invited to play as long as they play nice.
In the last years, a new category of people arose, (all Millennials) who are labeled “digital nomads”
They are called like that because they are literally nomads, as they don’t own a home, they are not bound to a certain place for work, and they move from country to country, continent to continent having online jobs or just working whatever while enjoying different countries and cultures for a short while.
And “digital” because they leverage the power of the Internet, starting from finding hosts or cheap accommodations through platforms like Airbnb, or from booking flights or Taxis, up to making a passive income while traveling.
Now… I am proud to be part of this crazy new community.
We usually do not judge, we are glad to help each other, no matter the color of our skin or nationality and we have a great desire to constantly learn new stuff, and we play life rather than living it.
I was born an immigrant, because I know I’m just a guest on this planet.
And I try to behave like one, that means I treat my “host” and the other guests with respect, I don’t make a mess while I stay, I don’t try to get more that I need, and I surely don’t think that anything belongs to me, as in just a blink of an eye, I will leave in same way that I came: by myself and with nothing on me
Thank you and see you around the world.
How to become financially free online and where to get started
Today I will speak about how to become financially free online and how to get started,even if you don’t have a business or any prior experience .This is the 3rd episode of “How to become financially free” series and if you haven’t seen the first two episodes I will highly recommend you to have a look as they are linked together.
In the last episodes, I’ve talked about the mindset that you should have when starting this journey how important this is.First of all , forget about the limitations that were put on you by : the education system,teachers ,family,or society in general.They just don’t apply to the times that we live in right now.Now we have the Internet(which you can use like a mega-library or as a mentor, to guide you).All you need is some sort of gadget(smartphone ,tablet, or laptop) to connect, time to work ,and patience. It’s also crucial that you break out of those :”I’m not good enough” or “I don’t know nothing about it” kind of states of spirit.We all have that “tiny guy on the shoulder” who’s constantly advising us not to believe, or not to act.Tell him to shut up and let you be.
Once you made the conscious decision that you are going to become financially free online you must arm yourself with a lot of patience, and be willing to put in the work that is required.
You have to understand this doesn’t come over night ,and depending on how fast you learn and how much energy you allocate , it can take from weeks up to years.Before you feel discouraged by the word “years”,I want you to look back and see how much effort you put in order to get this job that you currently have ,job that probably doesn’t fulfill you.
I will ask you now:”Are you not willing to spend 10-20 hours per week for something that in a year could bring you financial freedom for the rest of your life?”.Just think of the implications :no boss, no commute,no dead-lines,freedom of movement,time to spent with the family or friends and the most important ,no stress. And “Are you willing to redirect your energy into something that in time could become your online business and provide the lifestyle that you desire?”
If what I said so far resonates with you ,the best thing to do, especially if you are starting from scratch, is to get into affiliate marketing until you have your own product or service that you can sell.Affiliate marketing is basically selling others people stuff for a commission.
For that ,you can start your own shop on Shopify.Shopify is like an online mall where you can sell all sort of things ,as long as you can drag people attention or if you already have a list of possible buyers.This is where the marketing part comes in.If you have a product and a platform to sell it from ,how can you make the people buy it from you?Work and creativity are the answer.
You can use others platforms like Amazon,as long as you find a product or a list of products that you think are worth selling.
A big advice would be to look for high ticket products that offer a big commission per sale.I think we would all agree when I say that is easier and less time-consuming to sell a product that is worth $2000 and comes with a 40% commission, then to sell 500 products at $5 for a 50% commission each.So choosing the right products and platform is essentially in my opinion.
This kind of products and services are not out of reach for beginners, however you need to do a proper market research before getting into it and know the product from head to tail
Is is for this reason why I want to introduce you to a community of entrepreneurs , people who can answer all your questions in regards to how you should start this journey, and more important ,who can give you the right tools.
Thank you and see you soon
It is the 29th of August 2017.
Just finished my last shift at the place where I worked for the last two and a half years and as I was walking home I realized that that was it. A chapter is ending and like everything in life, new door steps are waiting to be crossed.
Even though I am really excited for what is due to come, (and for those of you who are getting out of the comfort zone on a regular basis – you know the cocktail of emotions: excitement, fear, happiness, worry, joy, and anxiety), I feel the urge to stop for a moment and look back, analyze and draw some conclusions.
So to rewind a bit, we are in March 2015 in Bucharest (Romania) and Mary and I take the decision to change the scenery and move…anywhere.
We open ourselves to the idea of moving, search a little on the Internet, and basically let the Universe do what it does the best: direct you where you belong.
Soon enough we get an invitation from a friend of ours who is living in Canterbury, GB to come and stay there for the summer.
We check out the place on Google, like it, and decide that that is the place we want to call “home” for the next part of our lives.
Take a deep breath before the dive
I now find myself in the same spot where I was two years ago, having to leave the safety of a well-paid job, the comfort of a house that now has my energy, and most important the friends and relationships that brought me some much joy.
I know this feeling very well, I hate it and at the same time, I’m addicted to it.
We can call it change, transformation or even evolution.
I just call it “living”.
Because for me this is the only time when I feel that I am alive. When I willingly leave the comfort of a good life, give up almost all my material belongings to start over from scratch in a foreign place.
This is the fourth time that I’m pulling this off since 2011, and I think It has become a lifestyle for me and Mary.
We only take this step, of moving further, when the place that we are living in, and ultimately the environment and people have nothing more to teach us. Routine is, in my opinion, the number one killer of joy.
Again, I find myself at the crossroad of Comfort and New, and again I choose without blinking the second option, even though the road to New is foggy, unpaved and has no traffic signs.
Again, I look up, take a deep breath, and dive in Life.
My biggest Fear VS my biggest Rewards
Now, you may think that I am born adventurer, a guy that laughs at fear in its face, or some sort of Indiana Jones, however, that couldn’t be further from the truth.
My biggest fear is the fear of new, unknown, and change.
I was born in the sign of Cancer, and have been fascinated with astrology since I was a kid. It’s because of this reason, I started learning about stereotypes and the influence of the planes on the human psyche.
It turns out the people born under this sign have the characteristics of a crab: they love the beach, they like to gather stuff, they are family people and don’t get far away from the loved ones, and at the very first sign of threat they withdraw in their shell. We are not build to take risks.
And I honestly lived by these rules for almost all my life, calculating all my risks, making plans, making plans of the plans and so on, until every angle was analyzed and there was no room left for uncertainty.
This way of living gave me a comfortable ride and that’s about it.
The first time I had to make this kind of major changes in life I was forced by circumstances and tried with all my strength to cling on what was then my comfort zone( even though that reality was falling apart like a sand castle).
I realized that the Universe was screaming at me through every possible means to make that change.
When I actually decided to take action, I realized that the new paradigm was much more comfortable, and had much more benefits than the last one.
Realising this was a big Eureka moment in my life.
I observed the intricate system of thoughts that my fear was using against me when the opportunity arrived.
And this is all I needed to know.
I learned how fear is working.
When getting out of your comfort zone becomes a routine
I am in that same place, only the country is different:
I’ve sent all that needed to be sent to my parent’s house.
Sold or trashed anything that was an extra weight.
Checked with my bank.
Done all the paperwork.
Took the vaccines.
Done my travel insurance.
Take a deep breath before the dive.
My personal four ways to get back on track fast
These are my personal four ways to get back on track whenever I feel that I’m not living life to my highest potential.
We all know that life is cyclical and we can see all around us that everything has ups and downs, so the problem isn’t you having a bad day/week/month, rather if you can get out of it.
If you have basic astrology knowledge you should know that there are certain days/ times of the month/ periods in a year when things are good and the opportunity arises, and times when everything goes really slow or stagnates.
So before you start judging your state of spirit, productivity, the mood in relationships, as being bad, try to check if Earth is in a bad conjunction with other planets.
If so, there is nothing you can do.
That period will pass.
Before you say that you don’t believe in this stuff, let me remind you, that the second most important science in Antiquity was the study of the stars(astrology), because the ancients knew that the movements of the planets are directly responsible for the human psychic.
So having this in consideration, whenever you fell out of balance, check out this four ways to get back on track:
“loose some of the things that are keeping you down”
We all grew up with a set of beliefs and on top of that we picked up some more along the way.
Not all the best, and some of those beliefs, we actually transformed them in habits that dictate our life.
I like to make the analogy of carrying a backpack on your shoulders, and that backpack gets filled up with all sorts of thoughts, ideas, conceptions, point of views, and eventually gets so heavy that you can’t walk anymore.
So finding yourself in that situation, the logical thing to do would be to stop, go through your backpack, see which beliefs/habits no longer serve you and throw them away.
I know, easier said than done, but this is one of the quickest ways to lose those misconceptions that were holding you down and get back on the fast lane of life.
To do so, all you need is to arm yourself with awareness and have the courage to be true to yourself, even though you may not like what you see in the first place.
I guarantee that whenever you dare to fight your demons, life will reward you, making that backpack even lighter than you thought possible.
These are a few of my personal examples that made a big difference: quitting smoking, quitting drinking, acknowledging my fear of uncertainty/future, dealing my jealousy( one of my biggest issues), giving up on all animal products from my diet( this came after years of documentation and as a result of compassion for all living creatures).
If you want to take this action but don’t know where to start, I suggest applying the 80/20 rule described in “The 4-hour work week” by Tim Ferris.
Get yourself out of your comfort zone
The only way to lose weight is to work out, the only way to build a business is through work, and the only way to be good at anything is to take massive action in that way.
All that implies getting out of your comfort zone and pushing the boundaries little by little.
Does it hurt?
Of course, it does!
However, according to the Law of Duality(Ying/Yang), all that pain will be turned into power, fulfillment, and victory somewhere in your future.
All you have to do is, start taking baby steps and to be persistent in your actions.
Why is leaving your comfort zone important?
Because it implies taking action.
I am as a person, very fearful whenever I think of the future, that’s why my “cure” for this particular fear is to change cities/countries every 2 years and laugh at fear in its face.
After I do that, I am at peace for at least one year.
This is by far, my favorite method in defeating my fears and the quickest way to get back on track.
Start a new good habit
We all work on patterns and habits and that is excellent, otherwise, we would have to keep learning the same things over and over again.
Some of our habits are conscious like deciding to go every day to the gym, others are just impregnated in our life( brushing our teeth in the morning when you’re half-asleep).
The problem is we also have bad habits or vices: smoking, swearing, eating rubbish food at night, gambling and so on).
What I realized in my own life, is that whenever I go through a bad period, these vices tend to amplify as well, and if not stopped, they can turn into serious addictions.
So the best way to counter that is to start a good habit, something that you know it will benefit your body or mind.
To give you an example here are some of my habits:
-30 min per day of Duolingo( mobile application to learn and perfect my Spanish, Italian and French)
-at least 30 min of reading before going to sleep
-do some push-ups whenever I have the chance during the day ( I do series of 30 and it takes just 30 seconds).
If you want to take it to the next level and have awesome results in your life I strongly suggest to lose a bad habit( like smoking) and replace it with a good one ( jogging ).
Visualize yourself having an easy ride
I spoke about the power of visualization in the past and I consider it to be the main tool for creating my reality so far.
Ever since I saw the film “The Secret” back in 2009, I have used and perfected this method to the point where all the major things in my life ( job, house, car, even my girlfriend) were attracted consciously.
So every time some of my close ones are having a rough time, and come to me for advice, I recommend them to go in a quiet place, play some music and just to see them selfs getting back on track.
Thinking good will shift everything around you: situations, people or relationships, you name it.
In fact, it is probably compulsive bad thinking who brings us to these dark stages of our life, in the first place.
To make it more effective you can take some action as well.
For example, if you find yourself, let’s say, in debt and struggle to find a good job that would get you out of that debt fast, start visualizing (daily, until you reach your goal) having an extremely well-paid job and start looking for it( check it online, ask your friends, look for signs).
You can use it, basically for any type of bump you encounter in your life, no matter how big and scary it may seem.
It’s really funny how catastrophic some situations appear in our life at first sight, but once you deal with them you see that it wasn’t that bad.
Life is as serious and as hard as you wanted to be.
I hope my insights were of value and that you can use my four ways to get back on track whenever you think life lost its sense of humor.
I don’t believe there’s a single person on this Earth who doesn’t want to have a great day, every day.
Myself, like the mass majority of people, have lived my life on default mode, until a few years ago when I realized that there are other states of mind that can be induced quite easy
There are many states of mind in which a person can find itself, however, they can be all separated into two big groups, and those are:
- good states of mind
- bad states of mind
You may ask why “states of mind”?
Because if you are in the right state of mind, nothing and no one can touch or harm you in any way.
We are talking about that state of peace, joy, and gratefulness where it doesn’t matter what you do, or where you are- you are just happy.
So in order to have a great day, every day, I follow these steps:
1) I am grateful.
This is the very first thought I have when I wake, and I am always thankful to be alive, healthy, to have a home, a beautiful girlfriend next to me, and so on.
I actually made it a ritual, where for the first 30 minutes (as long as I brush my teeth and have a shower) I am thankful for everything I have in my life.
Just that, puts me in a state of mind where I’m feeling blessed and at peace, regardless of how busy or stressful my day looks ahead.
I can not stress enough how important is to be grateful for what you already have and how beneficial is for you to see the big picture in life, even when things don’t look that good.
Try to remind yourself during the day to be grateful for the actions that you are engaged in, and in time make it your default state of mind.
2) I meditate.
I have been practicing different forms of meditation since 2009 and really swap between them every now and then.
Finally, I ended up doing a kind of meditation that works just fine for me, however, I would suggest trying more than one kind and see which works better for you.
Why is meditation important?
Because it silences your mind.We have about 60.000 thoughts crossing our mind every day and that is stressful enough.
Meditation implies focusing on your breath/heart beats/inner body so that your thoughts run somewhere in the background.
You will then find silence and peace, and that is one of the most valuable “commodities” of our modern lifestyle.
In time the benefits of meditation will be seen in every aspect of your life: relationships, work, family, physical and mental health.
NOTE: a book that I find it to be very useful is “Meditation within Eternity” by Eric Pepin
3) I workout
The first Latin expression I came across when I was a kid, was: “Mens sana in corpore sano” meaning ” Healthy mind in healthy body”, and it’s still to this day, one of my core rules.
I tried a few sports in my youth and since I was 20 years old, hit the gym at least 3 times per week.
However, the best results I had so far were with my last program, which I started almost half year ago.
The funny thing is, it doesn’t require going to gym or working out until exhaustion( like I used to do in the past)
It’s called “calisthenics” and it’s basically doing exercises with your own body weight: like crunches, pull-ups, squats, push-ups.
The best part is that I don’t do it more than 30 minutes per day and I can do it in my own living room in the morning, listening to my favorite music.
The catch is that you have to do it every day and preferably with no or small breaks between the exercises.
But the results can be amazing, especially if you double it with a good diet.
My advice is to make it a lifestyle rather than just a temporary workout
However, if you are in need of losing weight fast and get ripped, I suggest the training called “Insanity” made by Shaun T.
4) I Listen to good music
Usually, I combine listening to music with visualizing, because this enhances both of them, making the latter produce better results (at least in my case).
Music is one of the quickest ways to get in a good mood and you should use is it as a weapon against stress.
The best way to do this is to have an anti-stress folder already made on your phone or laptop with the songs that you know will touch your soul and get you in that place of inner-peace.
Also, it’s good to start your day with a few good songs from that folder because that will set the mood for the rest of the day.
The same is advisable for ending a day, with the note that while you listen to your music, you should remember only the good things from that day and focus just on them.
5) I read at least 30 minutes before going to bed
I changed reading for watching TV or scrolling on Facebook/Twitter/Instagram a while ago and the fruits of that are starting to show up.
Besides the primary advantages of this (switching to good rather than bad messages), you get to read what other great people thought, and in time you will start thinking like them, thus changing your whole perspective on life and eventually changing your actual lifestyle.
It seems that the human brain can not distinguish between reading a book and listening to a live conversation.
In other words, it is the same for your brain to read a book by Shakespeare or to actually speak with him.
On the topic that you choose, you will develop a rich vocabulary in time, and that might help you in your business, in your personal life, or just make a good communicator out of you.
Every successful man or woman read on a daily basis and consider reading one of their top habits.(just as an example, Bill Gates said that he read two books per week for the last 20 years).
To become a giant you have to stay on their shoulders first and listen to them.
So I really hope my personal 5 tips were of value to you and will help you to have a great day, every day
All the best and don’t forget to like my Facebook page for more personal development and motivational posts.
“Wherever you are, whatever you are going, you can always start over again”
I saw this line in a movie a few years ago and it resonated so much with me, that after the movie ended I was still thinking about it and trying to think if I could apply it in my own life.
In case you are wondering the movie is called “The curious case of Benjamin Button”, and I personally consider it one of the most inspirational films ever created.
I know, easy to say, extremely difficult to put it in practice.
But why is it actually so hard to start over, to change paths in life, or just to take action in another direction?
My opinion is that our set of values and beliefs act like heavy stones holding us down.
Why our beliefs?
Easy, because everything starts in our mind with a single thought and base on further judgment we take decisions.
For most of us, this is where almost all the dreams get crushed, never reaching the stage of planning, researching, or putting it in practice.
We all have developed along the years certain filters through which we choose all that we think, speak, judge, and take decisions upon.
These filters are mostly inherited from our family, community, country, and some of them learned from school, media, or personal relationships.
Now, I’m not saying this is bad;
However, some of them are out of date and no longer serve us in this continuously changing world, which already tends to loose everything that is not true, transparent, or practical.
One of those old beliefs which have an echo everywhere in the Western world is the idea of security/stability.
We saw in last years many events like Stock Market crashes, Banks or Pension Founds going bankrupt, big insurance companies falling apart, all telling us one message: “the old world is dying”.
So how does one survive in the new emerging world?
You embrace the unknown, you let yourself by driven by life rather that trying to control everything, you reinvent yourself many times in the course of a lifetime, you get out of your comfort zone as frequently as possible and just truly live.
In the old mentality, you would live your life until the mid ’20 than you would get a job, start a family and slowly die( meanwhile you would eat as much as you could, and get fat).
Nowadays, you have the Internet to leverage, in order to start over again as many times as you want.
Thank God it’s not the ’90 anymore, where everything was just a hustle and the world seemed like a scary jungle.
Now we live a period of general enlightenment.
Don’t you think so?
Let me think of the ways I have been able to use the Internet in my favor in the last few years:
- changed three cities in Romania (looked for rent and jobs)
- Move to Greece (looked for rent and jobs)
- Move to England (everything is online here)
- Learned 3 foreign languages
- Learned to flair with the bottles
- Started an Online Business
- Booked everything and made an Itinerary for a one-year voyage to South America.
I’m pretty sure that if you stop right now from reading and think about how much the Internet has helped you in the last few years you can make a list three times bigger than mine.
And further more if you have a problem or find yourself in a situation that you want to get out of, I’m confident that if you Google it, you will find related stories, ways to overcome it, and groups of interest.
In my opinion, there is no more room for excuses now.
You live in a world where you have all rights granted, you have a stable ONLINE economy upon wich you can build anything, and you have the Internet to educate yourself in every way you desire.
The only things holding us down are self-beliefs( I can’t do that, I don’t know, I have kids, it’s too late), and procrastination( which is entirely your fault and always comes with regrets when reaching an old age).
So if you find yourself in a roadblock, in a bad marriage or relationship, in a job that doesn’ fulfill you, or have a burning desire to see the world, first slap that monkey inside your head that is always telling you WHY you can’t do it ,and then start researching and educating yourself.
If you believe it you can always start over again!
Does spirituality drive success or is it just smoke and mirrors?
This is the question to ask if you are living in 2017 on planet Earth and want to be an entrepreneur or simply to succeed in a certain area.
Because people( for the first time in the modern age) actually take in consideration this aspect and don’t look at you as a nutcase when debating it.
However, the situation wasn’t like this a few years back, in fact, it was the other way around.
I personally, started looking into the spiritual side of life in 2008-2009 and once I found out this new level of existence, I was totally hooked and educated myself as much as I could.
It was like I found the “missing link” of Life itself.
I started reading book after book, then looked online for more people who knew more about this, and ultimately I put everything to the test to see if it really works or I have been totally deceived.
I guess the ultimate test was in 2009 when I graduated University and had to get a job.
Not really that hard right?
Well, it shouldn’t be, unless, you have a degree in Modern History and you want to find a job in the high-level corporate sector.
My options( with the degree I had) were to work in a Library, The National Archives, or best case scenario, to find a place on an archeological site.
But I wanted money, social status and to roll with the big players.
So I used the rule of Attraction in my meditations to imagine myself in that very position where I was working in a tall office building, dressed in a suit, speaking business on the phone, and have crazy night outs in posh places with my colleagues.
To be honest, I did it just for fun, convinced that I would never be able to get this kind of job.
I had friends who graduated Business School and even for them it was hard to find a job in a good company without several recommendations or some sort of prior experience.
So I decided to have a plan B and apply for masters in case nothing good would pop up in the near future.
I attended Masters for a few weeks, and then one day while I was reading the newspaper, I saw this ad that caught my eyes.
The ad itself was ridiculously simple and didn’t give any specifications, so I decided to call and scheduled an interview.
Only when I reached that specific place(and realized how serious everything was) and after a 2-hour interview with my future boss (who broke every neuron of my brain), I was ready to give up on my corporate lifestyle.
But Life had other plans for me.
This company was looking for people with certain skills and abilities, who were not educated in the formal business system.
It seemed I was one of the lucky 20,( out of hundreds of people that applied) and after an intensive few weeks of training, I found myself dressed in a suit, talking on the phone with CEOs and bank managers across Europe, trying to “close them” and get that high commission.
It wasn’t until the company’s Christmas party that I realized all of these were the actual things I had imagined in my meditations.
At a point in the middle of the party, I stopped and looked around me.
I was in a posh mountain villa, partying high-class with my colleagues, all paid by the same company who offered me a position a few months earlier.
At that very moment, I was aware for the first time in my life, of how important is to link the spiritual tools with the day-to-day living and how much, a few minutes of meditation per day, can change your life.
I have been using ever since this tool, any many others, to drive in my life desired things, situations, and people.
Does spirituality drive success?
In my opinion, there is no way around it, and even if you could do it just through pure work, why would you choose the hard way?
Once you get deeper into the subject you will realize that using spirituality for success is just scratching the surface.
More than that you can use it to live your life in a state of peace and happiness, to discover your deepest fears and deal with them, and to realize you are not just a body, but the creator of your life, the true God of your own Universe.
Once you reconnect with your intuition, with that higher-self, and let yourself be driven by it, success is inevitable, however, your idea of success might change drastically as your perception will be much higher and you will no longer define it by how big your bank account is, but by the quality of your state of mind.
For years I studied this aspect of life called spirituality, without talking with my close ones or family, for the fear of not being ridiculized or just misunderstood.
But it’s clear for me now, that in the future it will mandatory for everyone who wants a certain level of stability in their life, no matter if that is on the financial, social, or personal level.
We are now in 2017 and I am actually writing a blog post on this topic- how amazing is that!?
I really hope you get to study and understand the real principles of life and put them into practice because if you do so, spirituality won’t only drive success, but your whole life will be one big success.
Here are a few books that helped me in my spiritual jurney and have been a milestone at certain moments:
“The Alchemist” by Paulo Coelho
“The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne
“Unshakeable” by Tony Robbins
All the best